Sunday, December 29, 2013

Sometimes I Worry...

about our boys growing into adults, and not being close.

Mica is very independent. He's the type that thinks he can handle everything on his own. Except when it comes to getting food. Then he's like, "I'm hungry. Can you get me something to eat?"

Isaak likes a buddy. Isaak has cried a few times because he didn't want to be "alone" when he grows up. He wants to live with us the rest of his life. At this point in his life it's ok to think that in my book. He'll change his mind later.

Isaak wrote this letter for Mica before Christmas:


"frim" = "from"

Isaak handed it to Mica. I heard Mica accept it. Then later Isaak handed me the letter and said, "Mica doesn't want this. Do you?" I took it.

It melted my heart. Family is so important to me. I want them to be close forever and always. They are their only siblings.

Daddy's not close with his sister, but I'm really close with mine.

It breaks my heart that Daddy is not close with his only sibling. It's not like the fight. They just don't communicate. It is what it is.

Some people only want to hang with who is in their life at that moment of time. All others are not bad, just simply not part of their life. They push them away.

Sure there are times I don't see eye to eye with my sisters. We always make a mends. Soon after we argued about something, we're back to laughing. We're not perfect. No one is.

My Dad (Grandpa to the boys) grew up with a Dad (Great Grandpa to the boys) that wouldn't talk to his brother (Great Uncle to the boys). The two grown men fought over farm land. My Dad would go and visit each one separately clear into adulthood. He wouldn't talk about seeing one, with the other.

My Grandpa was a Christian Scientist. They don't believe in going to the doctor. My Grandma died shortly after having my Dad. When she passed away, a police man was called because someone knew her parents would want my Grandpa harmed at that funeral. If he took her to the hospital she may not of died. At a young age my Dad would take the bus to go see his Mother's side of the family. He was so young, and he had many stops before he got to his destination. His Mother's family didn't even know he was coming, or what he looked like. They accepted him. They had nothing good to say about my Grandpa.

We've had our family feuds.

My only hope is that Mica and Isaak will see how very important family is to me. They will have that common link. I hope for them to stay close as they get older. I know all kids bicker. Many change as they age.

It seems like society progresses in some ways, and degresses in others. I feel like the newish generation is more open minded than ever. Sometime other things get in the way that tear people apart (drugs, depression, steeling and so on). Those outside demands can break up relationships.

I'm hoping my children don't fight over something silly. I hope they realize how important they are to one another. Life is too short to let distance, or fighting over farm land to get in the way.

Do you get along with your family?

7 comments:

Masshole Mommy said...

I think about that sometimes, too. My nine year old always says he's going to become a mail man and get on the route with our house on it so he can stop here for lunch every day. I really hope he still feels that way when he's an adult.

Maryann D. said...

I think all family's will have arguments or disagreements at times. Hopefully they will make up, we always do in my family. I wish also that my children will always be able to get along and be there for each other throughout life.
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Theresa said...

I don't like any of my 3 siblings and they don't like me. We I'll be civil to each other at family gatherings, but that's as far as it goes. Though they all get along fine. I just dint agree with their lifestyles. I am not even friends with them on Facebook. If my girls decide not to communicate with each other in the future, I will be sad, but will respect their decision. Just because we were born into the same family does not require us to all get along.

Harry Flashman said...

I get along ok with my brothers, but it's hard for three Alpha males to be in the same room for more than 15 minutes without some kind of fuss breaking out. Maybe that's why we all have wives who are calm and conciliatory.

Veronica Lee said...

I am with Theresa. While I get along well with my younger sister, the elder one and I just tolerate each other's presence! My boys used to squabble a lot when they were younger but now I can see they are getting close.

Happy New Year, A!

~ Noelle said...

dont get me started... that is in a whole new line of talks that i dont think there is enough words for.
lol - my siblings and i get along... some more than others... my sister and i just started talking in the past year after 5+ years of not talking (she messed around with a guy i was dating)
but then my cousins and aunt / uncle... yeah, i should blog about that...

Terra H. said...

I have three sisters and one brother. I'm super close to all but one sister and that's because she's extremely hard to be around. I'm very close to my nieces and nephews, aunts and uncles. There is the chance your boys won't get along when they are older but don't let it worry you. I have two teenage sons who hated each other when they were younger. They found reasons to fight with each other. Although they're not the best of buds now, they've evolved and speak to each other all the time. They even have each other's backs, including secrets.

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