Sunday, July 27, 2014

Friends With School Kid's Families

Mica has a few friends who's families like to get together. I'm still not sure how I feel about this. I like that they are involved with their kids, that I'm free to go along with Mica if I'm unsure about the situation. It's more calming to know where your kid is at, how they are acting, and how others are acting towards them.

It is however a challenge to entertain, or be entertained when whole families are involved. I don't want to feel like my husband and I have to be friends with Mica's friend's parents. I'm cool with spending a few hours with them, but longer than that I feel like we're done. Weekends sadly are often time to get things done for us. Having extended family that lives here makes for a lot of family events. I also like time for just us.

Then there's that part of me that wants the opportunity for just Mica and his friend(s) to hang out, and not have all their siblings there.

Sometimes they stay longer than I'm prepared for. If it's just a kid, no big deal. If it's their whole family it's much more difficult when it's meal time.

I've been trying to do the Lowes Clinic with one family. It's free, time is limited, and I don't have to have a clean house for that.

They wanted to see us again. Then Daddy got a text from the other family saying that they wanted to do something with us to.

I was thinking, What should we do? It's got to be something we all can enjoy.

We asked each family if they wanted to go hiking where Mica had his day camp, at Hummel Park?

Both families said, "Yes".

So we went. Another dad showed up. He didn't even have his kids. They were staying with their Grandma and Grandpa in another state. I wish he would have had them because he has a daughter that is Isaak's age, and a son that's Mica's age. Isaak gets left out often. I think this dad wanted to check out the park, and go hiking.

I guess this is it: We're all friends. Kids or no kids. All these kids play after school on the playground together. It's the after school clan.

I had no idea that one family had never been hiking before. They didn't bring bug spray, and their little girl wasn't wearing hiking type shoes. Their mom is/was very over protective. She kept saying to her kids, "Watch out!", "Be careful!", "Let me help you.", and "Here's the hand sanitizer." Another dad and I looked at each other and laughed.

I'm protective in the fact that I won't let my kids walk around the neighborhood without me. They can't play in the front yard by themselves. I do however let them wrestle, box with gloves, go to camps without me, they are in ju-jitsu, so they fight there. To me they are kids, boys no less, they need to get their energy out.

We hiked, played on the park's tire swing, collected snails, snacked, and took photos of bugs. We had a good time.





5 comments:

Masshole Mommy said...

I don't really like when the whole family gets involved. I always feel awkward in those situations.

~ Noelle said...

i still want to see a real live snail... one day????

Harry Flashman said...

It's hard enough for working parents to have time as a family. Let alone when you have to include all the dogs and ponies. The next thing that happens is that you get drawn into someone else's family drama. I would steer way clear of getting involved in that. If the kids want to get together fine, but it's asking too much for you to have to entertain and socialize. It's like quick sand. Easy to get into, really hard to get out of.

Theresa Mahoney said...

I feel the same. I don't want to be friends with the parents of my kid's friends. Mariah's boyfriend went to Cedar Point with us and his parents happened to be going that day too. They wanted to ride all the rides with us and that was weird. We ended up telling Mariah she could ride the rides with her boyfriend without us for a few hours just so we didn't have to ride with the other parents lol.

(Terry) My Journey With Candida said...

LOL... I was never really friends with my daughters friends parents. We talked when we seen each other but we were too busy to socialize with them. Now, I am the same way. I don't have a lot of time to socialize..... Maybe if I didn't blog I would have more time.

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