Friday, March 6, 2015

Random Tid Bits

The things I've learned as a Mother. 

I do have to say I had a one up from babysitting a lot when I was younger. I was a regular babysitter. I enjoyed it to. I had a another one up for my oldest sister Angie having my niece when she was 18. My niece Kailey lived with my parents for a few years. That certainly help prepare me for Motherhood. She shared a room with my sister and I. There was a lot I knew, and some things I didn't.
  1. As a Mom I thought I'd have control over my child's clothing choices, and hairstyles. They are boys. Boys don't care about things like that. -Not true. My Mom always helped pick out my clothes, and she went through pictures with me as to what to do with my hair. I always have ideas on hairstyles I like for boys. I even have a pinned board on hairstyles for boys. Mica and Isaak don't like what I like.

    It's fine. I'm glad they have opinions, likes and dislikes. It's great I'm raising independent thinkers. Dad has his opinion on these things to. My Dad growing up never cared about our clothes, or hair. As far as clothing goes I buy them what they are into. I usually get to pick it out though. I keep their tastes in my mind though.

  2. I used to think that kids are A) Brats or B) Great Kids. It's not as black and white as that. They go through stages. Our kids are good kids overall. They do well in school, eat good, sleep good, usually help when asked, but sometimes need reminders. There were different times where both kids went through a stage where they didn't want to leave Grandma and Grandpa's house. They'd refuse to get their coat and shoes on, and they'd cry the whole way home. 20 minutes of listening to a kid scream and cry, while driving can make anyone go insane.

    They love Grandma and Grandpa's house because they are nice, don't give them very many tasks, feed them throughout the day, and give them lots of TV time. I'm glad that was just a 3 year old stage. During that time I thought I was going to pull my hair out. I thought I was messing up as a mom.

  3. Growing up my mom got mad at us for little things like our shoes being in the middle of the floor. Once she had Grand Kids she said, "Alissa you have to learn to choose your battles." She has done this more as she had grandchildren, and I have done this as a parent to.

  4. I learn along with my kids. Somethings that they do in school is different than what we used to do. They teach me, and I teach them.

  5. They're all different. I don't like the comment, "Boys are easier to raise than girls.", "Girls are easier to raise than boys.", or "The second one is easier because you'll know what you are doing." Each child is different, they all go through stages.  We all have our happy moments, and our moments of struggle to.

What do you feel like you've learned while being a Mom or Dad?

10 comments:

Lisa @ Two Bears Farm said...

You have a great perspective. There are always going to be challenges, we just do the best we can.
Oddly, my kids never seem to care at all about their clothes or hair. I lay out their clothes every night, and they wear them, and they never seem to care one way or another. The only thing is that for a while Reid wouldn't wear jeans - he only wanted to wear 'soft pants'. I think that was more of a sensory issue though.

Masshole Mommy said...

My boys are not really choosy about what they wear. They pick out their outfits day to day, but I generally buy all their clothes. They haven't expressed an interest in buying/picking out what I buy yet.

As far as hair, I keep my boys hair SHORT. I like clean cut and that is the way they are. My oldest asked me if he could get a mohawk and I told him not as long as he lived under my roof. LOL.

Jacquelineand.... said...

I think you've hit all the high points of what I learned as a parent, except this... if there's any way a child can misinterpret a word/concept and then use it to embarass their parents, they will!

Let's just not discuss the difference between miscarriages and abortions, k?

Joyce Lansky said...

My son never cared what I put on him or how is hair looked when little, and he was much easier to raise than my girls. But I won't say it. I remember thinking we were perfect parents with our first one. When number two came along, we learned that we weren't as great as we thought.

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mail4rosey said...

I have learned that when your kids grow up and move out, you're just as touched when they call just to say hi, think of you, shoot over an email to show you something they're doing, etc. as you were when they were little kids climbing up into your lap to give you snuggles. :)

Theresa Mahoney said...

Mariah doesn't care about appearance, so if I tell her to do her hair a certain way or put something on I want her in, there's not fuss. Allison, on the other hand, really has her own opinions on her appearance and we go head to head A LOT! I don't even want to think of the battles we'll have when she hits the teen years!

Cascia Talbert said...

Great post! I agree with you completly. My kids are so different from each other and yes, they do go through stages. I found 3 the toughest age for all of my kids. Finally, my youngest is four so we are done with the terrible threes. Have a great weekend!

indah nuria Savitri said...

love this note..you are right, we gotta choose our battle...and I do help my kids with the clothes :)

~ Noelle said...

Pick your battles...
YES... that is a BIG ONE. I have learned that already. lol...

(Terry) My Journey With Candida said...

When my Daughter was young, she would not leave me alone about a spike haircut. I got so sick of her I said GO AHEAD... GET IT. She did and hated it. I had a good laugh

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