Tuesday, April 20, 2021

WW: Joy

Last week was a rough week! 

My almost 13 year old was picked on at school. He was called the "N" word over and over again, and shoved around during a no touch football game. I was sad he was sad. When human's are picked on it's not just because of their skin. Sometimes it's for different reasons. I have a long list of artist friends and many of them have gotten picked on because they think differently. Don't they know that artists paint their bland world? It's also not "popular" to be nice. Isaak's both an artist and is nice.

My coworker told me to contact the Division Officer at the school about it. I sent an email, and got back an email from the Division Officer that same day, had not one, but two phone calls from the Principal and Vice Principal at the school to call and talk to me personally about the incident. They are opening up dialog about the issue to all the students, and the boys that caused him to cry are getting in trouble. I don't even want to know how. The boy that stood by Isaak the whole time is now Isaak's bestie. They talked on the phone for an hour last night. Isaak may of been pushed down, but he's being built up. He even put together a desk, for the most part all by himself. 



Then Mica is fully remote, and got this postcard in the mail. Things are starting to turn around. 












Sunday, April 18, 2021

They Go Low, You Go High

Isaak was big time bullied last week. To the point where I wanted to stomp right into his school and scream. Of course I didn't. But I wanted to. 

Two bullies kept calling him the “N” word in PE. Not a word we use ever. Anyhow after them repeating it all throughout gym class, he broke down crying, and took himself on over to the councilors office. I’ve been crying just thinking about it. He didn’t want to tell because he thought that would make things worse for him. I told him that if people asked why he was crying they are the good people. But if he didn’t want to talk about it, he could just tell them he got hurt. They don’t need to know it was his feelings that got hurt. He’s a freaking great kid, empathetic, and pretty good looking. Nice people get picked on. What the heck is wrong with people?! I told him to talk to his teachers, tell them what happened, and to watch for this repeat behavior. I’ll be emailing them as well. The “N” word should just never be used. I wasn’t going to say anything, but that just makes situation like this worse. We need to talk about shit shows. Bullies shouldn’t and can’t win.

Here’s something you don’t usually hear...artist types are often made fun of because we’re odd, different, look at the world differently. It’s not always a skin color, male vs female thing. Guess what? I’d rather be odd, and think outside the flipping box that non artist types make. 

I even grew up hearing my mom's side of the family say to me, "Oh you're just like your father!" Kind of in a snarky way. I know they love me. They appreciated him too. In a, You do so much for me kind of a way. When they needed landscaping help, he was there, he helped with my cousin's Boy Scout Troop, and way more. I may have been young, but I remember all that kind of stuff. I just don't remember my math facts, and academic stuff.

So I hung out with Isaak while he built a desk. He’s did an amazing job. When people are pushed down, they can rise up by building something.





Monday, April 12, 2021

It's a New Dawn, It's a New Day

I keep getting this song in my head. 


Except I don't know that I always feel good. I just feel like having kids old enough to want to hang out in their rooms more than with me, and so many new jobs have me feeling like life has started over.

What's a song that's been in your head lately? 

Thursday, April 8, 2021

What Would You Do?

I was sitting in my living room, and all the sudden we heard a ton of yelling. 

Naturally we all looked outside. There was a man trying to chase a woman, and the woman walking very fast trying to get away from one the guy. 

She was wearing a pink nightgown or bath robe. It was odd. 

I picked up my phone, and did something I've never done by calling 911. 

They asked if it was a fire, or an emergency... I explained that it was neither. I went into what was happening. Then told them that I just didn't want this fight to escalate more than it already had. She agreed, and sent a dispatcher out. 

Travis looked pissed at me. He said, "You should have asked me before you called. no There isn't a real emergency going on." I mentioned that I'd let the cops decide that. Then all three boys in my house were annoyed with me. They thought I was over reacting. 

Here's the thing I've never called 911 in my life. I felt like I was on that show, "What Would You Do". It  was a test.

Did I over react by calling 911, or did they over react because I called 911?

To me it wasn't about if I was wrong or right. It was about preventing something worse from happening.


Tuesday, April 6, 2021

WW: Dinner {Linky}

Isaak is 12, and had this strong desire to make steak. I bought some, and he made a good steak. Why can't I get our 15 year old to volunteer to make dinner?












Friday, March 26, 2021

The ultimate guide to buying glasses online

After a year of staying at home and shopping online, we’ve all become experts at finding the best deals on the web. But one item that still seems risky to buy online is glasses. What if you don’t like the style, or the prescription is wrong?


Here is the ultimate guide on how to buy the perfect pair of glasses online.

Face shape

Whether you just need to buy reading glasses, or want a brand-new pair of prescription specs, finding the perfect style can be tricky.

While you’ll need a proper eye test to advise you on the right prescription, no one can actually advise you on the right frames. To make this even more difficult, online glasses retailers have a larger variety than any physical opticians you could visit. And without being able to try on a million pairs before making a decision, how do you find the perfect pair for your face?

Those with rounded faces always look great in more square or rectangular specs. They create a bold statement and add angles to the face in all the right places.

If you have a strong, square jaw line, you would benefit from a pair of oval or circular glasses. These soften the shape of the face. Combining a round set with a bold frame color will also balance out the proportion of facial features.

Oval-shaped faces have full reign. They often have perfectly proportioned faces and as such, should look for a pair of glasses that isn’t too big or too small.

Lovely heart-shaped faces work best with a bottom-heavy pair of frames, or completely rimless options if you’re a little shyer about your features.

Although this is a general rule of thumb, it largely depends on whether you’re confident with your face shape, or want your glasses to balance out your features.

My Glasses Had to be Replaced Because They Were Old, and Filled With Scratches


The frames

While the above advice determines the shape of the lens, you’ll also need to consider the frames. Luckily, this is all down to personal taste. You might want a standout set to add personality to your work uniform, or a trendy pair that serve more like an accessory than a functional piece.

Colors should complement your style, as well as your hair and eye color.

Comfort features

Lastly, look out for features that you know are more comfortable. If you have to wear glasses every day, comfort is incredibly important and can’t be remedied after purchase.

Straight temple glasses are ideal for everyday use. These frames don’t curve completely around the ear, but gently hug the head to keep them in place.

Rubber nose pads, or adjustable options, will prevent the frame from rubbing the skin on your nose. If you’ve ever lost a nose pad on your sunglasses, you know how this feels... not good.

Finally, the bridge fit of the glasses is worth further research. A bridge that’s too wide will inevitably keep slipping down your face, while one that’s too small will cause discomfort.

My Niece Miss Margaret had to Get Glasses as Well

 

Finding the perfect glasses online can be tricky. Some brands offer a “try before you buy” option, where you can try frames that have been delivered in the post, before making your decision. Other sites allow you to try them on virtually using an integrated camera. But, generally speaking, the decisions are all down to you and what you like. Whatever you choose, we’re sure you’ll look beaut!

Tuesday, March 23, 2021

WW: Jerry's Package {Linky}

We went on a long walk, and saw some great graffiti:



Some rust worth photographing:



This one made me laugh! We saw a shop called Jerry's Package. I pointed it out to my 12 year old, and we couldn't stop laughing. Ha! Who would name a place, "Jerry's Package"? Get your mind out of the gutter. Ha!











Sunday, March 21, 2021

Random Tid Bits

  1. I asked Mica to sweep his room. A long time went by; I asked, "Mica did you sweep your room yet?" He said, "Ya I did that already." He brought the broom back, but he had no dirt to toss. I said, "Please don't tell me you threw your dirt away in your basket that filled with holes?!" He had a super guilty look on his face. I said, "Mica I've brought this up to you before. The dirt goes right through the holes." 

  2. Isaak's been much better, since we've sent him back to school. He's only been in school for 2 weeks. Spring break fell in there as well. He brought his grades up, made a few new friends, made a new crush, and just overall seems happier. 

  3. One week I went to get Isaak from school. He told me all about how he sent out an email to all his teachers. It was a - Thank you for all you've done this year. I know it's been hard, but you're a good person. If you are ever feeling down there are people that care about you. kind of email. Isaak's always been a caring person, but I haven't seen this side of him, since the pandemic hit. 

    I love Isaak's teachers this year. Certainly his note of kindness was worthy. In 5th and 6th grade he had some rough teachers. I'm glad when he needs them the most, they are good. 

  4. I went to pick up Isaak from school last week, and there was a big wait in the pick-up line. Cars were moving, but there was a car that wasn't moving at all. I'm not a honker, but I honked. Then when I noticed cars were backed up in the busy street I went around. Go figure the Mom or pick-up person had fallen asleep. I hoped she had the car in park. Ekkk! 

    We got home and Isaak had someone else's device in his backpack; along with his own. Double Ekkk! I called the school, no one was there. Isaak emailed his teacher, and he emailed back saying not to worry about it. I just envisioned this kid being worried, or getting his ass kicked. 

  5. We've been playing Hearts a lot. It's one of Travis' favorite games. I like most games. I'm not sure the boys love it though. What's your favorite card game?

Saturday, March 20, 2021

I Wear This #shirt Periodically

Mica’s a science geek + I think puns are funny, so I picked up this shirt for him. It says: I wear This Shirt Periodically. Mica likes it. He did say, “Mom next time don’t get me something that’s so punny.” That’s what I liked about the shirt. Considering he goes to a science magnet school, the shirt fits his courses. 


Sizes: 

It’s unisex. 

The shirt comes in sizes Small to 3X. Good size range. 

Lately I’ve been trying to get Large Tall, for Mica. In that size range there isn’t a lot to choose from, except flannel or just one solid color. Also Large Tall shirts are much more expensive. No fun pun shirts for Mica in his near future. 

He’s well over 6’, and not done growing. In t-shirts, where he doesn’t need sleeve length Larges seem to work, for now. 

Colors:

It comes in black, red, blue and dark blue. I got dark blue. I like the red option to. I could see the print on other colors. 

Cost: 

It’s $21.95 + options of shipping. It did ship out fairly fast. 

Where to Get it:

https://www.neewho.com/products/funny-i-jwear-this-t-shirt-periodically-periodic-table-of-elements-graphic-shirts

Are you a science geek? 

Disclaimer: I got this product for a discount for review. All opinions are my own. 

#beekind Shirt Review

In a world where you can be anything bee kind!


I’m not the best at always being kind. Ever since I found out I am going through this change in life, I find myself getting impatient, frustrated, and tears eyed. With working remote there are great things. I can take, pickup Isaak from school, do laundry in the middle of the day. There there’s the flip side. Communication is really hard, I do projects that I feel really good about, others are happy with them too, then others are not. AIM has a lot of groups. I actually work more than 40 hours. I can’t understand how people are so difficult to get ahold of. When others contact me I’m there. I begin to wonder, am I the problem? I don’t feel like I am, but from others perspectives maybe I am. 

I do think of myself as accepting to all races, cultures, men, women, and sexual orientation. That’s where kindness comes in. 

Sizes: 

This unisex shirt is pre washed, so made to fit. 

It comes in small, med, large, XL, XXL, and XXXL.  

Colors:

black, blue, grey and green. 

I liked the design on black best, but could see it on a tan, chocolate brown, or yellow ochre. 

We need more kindness in the world + I’d love to save the bees 🐝. I believe that if we all could be just a little bit kinder, the world would be a better place. What do you think would make the world better? 

Where to buy this shirt: 

https://www.neewho.com/products/in-a-world-where-you-can-be-anything-be-kind-tee-shirt

Disclaimer: I got this product for a discounted price in exchange for an honest review. All opinions are my own. 

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