Isaak and I went to go swimming at the Y last night. Isaak was throwing a ball back and forth with me. Then he accidentally hit a guy in the head with the ball.
The poor guy had a look of slight anguish on his face.
I know Isaak didn't mean to hit the guy. He just doesn't have very good aim.
I said, "Isaak you need to apologize."
I said, "Isaak I know you didn't mean to hit him in the head with the ball, but you still need to apologize."
I said, "Isaak if you don't apologize we are getting out of the pool."
I apologized to the guy and his father. Did I mention that the guy is mentally challenged. That made the situation harder for me. Harder to communicate, harder for him to understand that a 4 year old didn't mean to hit him.
Then we got out.
I explained to Isaak that we didn't get out because he accidentally hit the guy in the head with a ball. We got out because he refused to apologize. I went on to say, "You have to apologize if you hurt someone; even if you didn't mean to hurt them."
I know Isaak is shy when it comes to strangers. He's the type of kid that doesn't want to play on the playground if he doesn't know anyone else playing.