It was put on by Common Sense Media.
Here's a recap as to what they talked about, or you can read my post. :)
Bullying is a repeated aggression directed to 1 or more person.
- Physical
- Verbal
- Relational - Manipulating someone's social standing, or destroying their family
Cyber bulling is the same thing as bulling, but it's online. 1/3 of 10-18 year olds have had some kind of problem with cyber bulling. The biggest problem is that only 1 in 10 tell a teacher or a parent. They hide it. Many feel like if they tell they are going to make the situation worse.
- Target - The person being bullied. Offer support to them. You may need to talk to the bullies parents, a teacher, or principle. As a parent talk to your kids even when they are younger about bullying. When or if bullying occurs discuss all steps you as a parent will take to stop the negative behavior. Otherwise it may cause added anxiety for your child.
- Bully - Acknowledge the problem. Try to get at the core of their feelings. Oftentimes a bully has been bullied themselves, or were only given negative attention as a child.
- Bystander - Is someone that is around when the bulling takes place. They could be in the friend circle of the target if it's online. Encourage them to keep open communication with you.
- Upstander - Is a Bystander, but takes their roll and feeds positivity into the situation. They may do this by adding humor to de- escalate the situation, distracting the bully, or standing up for the Target. Encourage your kids to be Upstanders! Work with your kids to instill empathy.
Signs of a Target getting Bullied:
- Anxious
- Secretive Behavior
- Unusually Defensive
- Change in Behavior
- Spends a lot of time online
- Loss of interest in achievement - such as grades dropping, unwilling to do things they'd normally want to do
- Don't share passwords
- Treat others with respect - Upstander
- Think before you reveal
- Document if they are bullied by taking screen shots, or printing things out
- Connecting Families
- Digital Glossary - Terms of the tweens and teens that you may not know
Screen Time is the next topic that Common Sense Media is going to tackle. It's next Saturday from 1 -2:30 at Do Space. School aged kids can be brought with you.
6 comments:
I embarrassed Allison a few weeks back. She was tagged in a Facebook post that I took as targeting another girl in a bullying way. Now, Allison was just tagged and was not participating, but I marched into her room and loudly let her know that it was unacceptable to hang around with girls who act like that. I told her to immediately unfriend the girl from Facebook, and if they girl asked why, tell her that she is not allowed to be friends with bullies. I then pointed at her friend who was spending the night and said I better never catch her dragging Allison into those situations either lol. I'm sure she didn't like my reaction, but I did get my point across to both girls that I would not respond nicely to any bullying situation they were associated with.
Afterwards, I commented on the post letting all the girls involved that I was disgusted with their behavior and knew who all their mothers were. Kind of put the scare in them after that ;)
As a child, I was bullied quite bit. Luckily it stopped once I was in 10th grade and stood up for myself without fear, but during 8th and 9th grade it was pretty bad. I am so glad that there is an increased awareness of bullying today! It can actually save lives.
Even though there is a lot of anti-bullying programs, it is still a big problem. Cyber bullying is awful. Glad to hear you are brining more awareness to this issue. Have a terrific Tuesday!
This sounds like a wonderful conference on bullying. We use Common Sense Media often. I am fortunate in that my boys don't really text and have little to no interest in social media. They are 14 and 11.
Bullying is a big deal. Cyber bullying is as bad as in person and often carries over to in person just the same. :(
I hope that is not something my kids have to ever deal with. I like the approach of "Common Sense Media." This article is a great resource.
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