Friday, September 8, 2017

Talking To My Kids About More Than Just Sex

Did I get your attention with that title?

Mica got his first love letter at school. Someone handed him a folded up piece of paper. 

Notice the full heartbeat on, "With You" and the flat line on, "Without You"?

She love - likes him. The little person on the bottom with the heart is cute.

So we talked about it. 

My Advice:

Mica don't ignore her, be nice to her, don't spread rumors, and just tell her that you want to focus on school right now. If he felt like it he could say, "My parents don't want me dating yet."

At School:

He did his best to avoid this girl. In fact he ran from her at recess. She stopped him at different times during the day to ask what she could do to make things better? He said, "Drop it. Drop the whole thing." 

The Dare:

Apparently there is a game played at school where 2 people have to play some kind of game. Whoever looses gets a dare. A girl dared another girl to ask Mica out.

When the girl asked Mica out he responded with, "I think that dare game should be banned at school." Ha! 

She proceeded to tell Mica that other girls liked him. 

I just hope this stuff doesn't go to my 12 year old's head. I don't need a cocky child! 

What kind of advice would you give a 12 year old on the opposite sex?


mail4rosey said...

aw, I think it's sweet. My son is the opposite. He's 10 and WANTS girls to like him. I tell him there's time for that much later on, and that's not what he's in school for...but oy!! Good luck to you. :)

Theresa Mahoney said...

Awe, young love is so funny and cute. Probably not to Mica, but still. Mariah didn't have a boyfriend until like 9th grade so we didn't go through this. Allison has had a few little boys coming around, but none have stuck for very long, thankfully. Most of their communication is online, so we don't see these written notes come though (though I do read her online messages to make sure nothing creepy is coming through)

Good luck to Mica (and you!) He's such a cutie, I'm afraid you'll be beating the girls back from here on out ;)

Mandy said...

So this whole note thing was a dare? Or did she really love/like him? I remember being 12 and going to a classmate's party down the street. They were playing spin the bottle. We didn't become friends. I walked home. (Because I was just down the street.) At least you've given Mica the option to opt out with an excuse (his parents). It's good he doesn't feel he needs to be roped into this.

An Apel a Day said...

Mandy, The note and the dare situation were 2 different girls. I hope all this doesn't go to his head.

Indah Nuria Savitri said...

Great advise! I will have to learn from you as well, boy is 10 now :)


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