Keep lines of communication open
Your teen will likely start becoming more secretive about their personal lives, the older that they get. Do not pry or try to force them to open up to you. Instead, let them know that your ‘door’ is always open and that you are happy to listen without judgment if ever they need to talk.
Try not to take their behavior personally
The chances are slim that their behavior is the way it is simply to upset you. So, try your best not to take it personally. If you do, you are almost certain to respond in anger, which will only push your teen further away.
Seek help when necessary
It is essential to seek out professional assistance if ever you worry that something is not quite right with your teen. This may mean that you suspect that they are addicted to drugs or alcohol, or that they are suffering from an eating disorder or anxiety and depression. Regardless of the problem at play, the point is that neither you nor your teen will be adequately equipped to ensure a swift and full recovery. The good news is that there are several drug treatment centers for teens in the USA. Ignite Treatment Centers are an excellent example to consider.
Avoid being too restrictive
Almost every teenager will rebel against authority at some point or another. In most cases, this rebellion takes place simply because they want to prove their independence and go against the rules. This is why being too restrictive on their behaviors and lifestyles can have the opposite effect than you intend. By forbidding them from going out with their friends, there is a higher chance that they will sneak out of the house to do so anyway. By banning them from touching alcohol, they are more likely to engage in excessive underage drinking behind your back.
Instead of telling them what not to do, focus your attention on giving them guidance to behave decently. For instance, do not tell them not to go near drugs. Tell them that a clean and sober mind is key to excelling in school and making smart decisions. Instead of telling them that they cannot go out, tell them that you have great trust in them and that you know they will be home by their curfew.
You will be amazed at the difference that this particular approach to controlling your teen has on both your lives.
Implement these tips, and you are sure to have a much easier time in terms of helping your teen to navigate their way through these difficult years. Best of luck.
3 comments:
About being restrictive...it's sort of a pick your battles game, isn't it?
@Liz yes it is a pick your battles thing. Thankfully my boys are ok with being at home. I know they look annoyed in the photo, but that's because I gave them tasks to do.
I am so thankful that both of my girls were (are) super easy to raise. When I had Leah though, omg. Every day was a pick your battles kind of day. Nothing could get through to that child, even extensive medications and therapy. Not that she's a horrible kid, she's just a sociopath and that is something I was not equipped to deal with.
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