Monday, August 8, 2011

I Need Motherly Advice From a Mother or a Father

My oldest is going to be 6 on Wednesday. He is not a picky boy with food. We've done our best to give him a variety of things to eat throughout his life. All the sudden, during this past summer he's become picky with clothes! I've never heard of a 6 year old boy being so picky! My husband's co-worker's 6 year old son is the same way. That made me feel a little better.

So what does Mica want to look like EVERY day:

He wants to wear a button down shirt, he prefers a tie. Why? Because he says, "I want to look handsome Mommy!" Many days I say, "No! You have to wear a t-shirt because it's a play day. You are handsome in t-shirts Mica!" He almost refuses to get dressed.

Am I cramping his style? Should I buy him more button down shirts because that's what he likes?
Is this one of those picky food type things? Where he needs to just wear what's in his closest because Mommy says so. I bought all the fun t-shirts. Should he be forced to wear them? Kind of like eating the food that's on their plate.

This is what we're dealing with at home right now. I honestly don't know what direction I should take. I never thought I'd have this problem with a 6 year old boy. 

Go Graham Go is hosting a giveaway for one winner to win a $100 gift certificate to Tea Collection.  I'm hoping to win because good boy clothes are so hard to find. Most have sports splashed all over them. Our boys are not into sports yet.

I know Mica would wear this and call himself "Handsome!":


Unknown said...

My nephew has been the same way since he was probably 3 (he's 5 now). I get the hand me downs and have TONS of 2t/3t turtle necks and button downs.. He goes through phases, but apparently his dad was the same way - and I'll say they're both RIDICULOUSLY smart. Maybe try to go with it for a while? Check out TJ Maxx type stores to buy the stuff for much less $$.. and keep the pics coming ;-)

Unknown said...

I am of the philosophy that I am the mom and you must wear what I tell you too, if we are going out. If we are staying home, then wear what you wish. That doesn't mean you have to be that way. I think it is sweet that he wants to wear a button down and tie. My hubs won't even wear them unless someone does!

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Nikki said...

My son is six too, but he's been picky about clothes since he was about two. Picky with food too, but that's a whole different story. I've learned to just let him pick out his own stuff, it's a lot easier than fighting with him, and I do want to encourage him to find his own sense of style. But if you already have a closet full of clothes that you paid for and he's not wearing them, I'd compromise by saying "look, you wear what you have until you outgrow it, then we'll work together to pick out some stuff for next season" or something.

On the other hand, I wouldn't buy a ton of button-down shirts either, because my son went through that phase, then suddenly decided he hated the way the buttons felt and refused to wear them at all. So basically, I'm no help at all because I just gave you totally conflicting advice. Sorry! :)

Anonymous said...

My son is the same way (and he's six). For the most part, I just go with it. I've found lots of shirts and ties at the consignment stores so I didn't have to spend a lot of money and he's satisfied with them. I know I don't want to wear clothes that I don't like or feel good in, so I've never been one to say "you have to wear it".

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Becky Jane said...

If he wants to look handsome, I would encourage it! I would think that pretty soon he'll find out how hard it is to play with a tie on.

My nephew has preferred button down shirts and so my sister quit buying t's for him and just got the shirts he liked on sale and at 2nd had stores and yard sales!

I don't agree with catering to a child's every whim. But if they show a strong tendency in certain areas, then I encourage letting them develop their own personality, likes and dislikes!

Lindsay said...

It's great that he's developing his own style so early on. Sounds like he'll be a great dresser. I would certainly make him wear what we have in the closet, but also let him pick out SOME of his own clothes. Don't wanna give him too much freedom now. Meet in the middle...

Olusola said...

I have no experiece in these things but I'd let him wear what he wants. Unique is good

What I Did Today said...

I hope he wins too! Ash is picky about her pajamas. She only wants to wear nightgowns. I went out of my way to pick up some for cheap on Ebay, but when they all happen to be in the dirty clothes then she gets to fall back on regular pjs. That's the direction I would take if she decided that she only wanted to wear dressy dresses. But I wouldn't let her wear anything that I want to keep for special. Only things I don't mind her getting dirty.

Dee said...

How cute is that! He's developing his style early. I'm all about letting them wear what they want as long as it isn't harming them or offensive. I just tried to put white sandals on Bella earlier, but she HAD to wear her big shoes with the eyes on them! Oh, well! AND I remember working and a little boy walked by with superman undies on his head. LOL, his mom just smiled and said, "hey, its what he wanted to wear today.". He wasn't hurting anyone! HOWEVER, if he doesn't have many of those shirts, I'd tell him he can wear them X amount of times per week and then he has to wear some of his other clothes too...and I'd let him help me pick the others out.

Anonymous said...

i always wanted to match clothes with my siblings but then we had way too much of age gap, 9 years with my sister and 13 with my brother :( i think its fun :D


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