Friday, June 26, 2015

I'm Not Usually That Person

In real life I'm a worker, a pretty calm person, and silly at home. Assertive I am not.

Our Education Director at work quit this spring. She wanted to spend more time with her grandchildren. 

The Director wanted us to turn in our syllabi as soon as possible to look over them. I got mine done right away. It was a month ago. 

I asked her 3 times if she had a chance to go over them? The answer was, "Not yet." each time.

Yesterday in the morning I sent her over a message asking her again. I never heard anything back.

I know this girl is the type that stands her ground. She doesn't let people walk on her. She feels very comfortable being a boss. It's annoying, but great for her! I'm not like that. I am to the students at first, so they know I mean business, but then I loosen up a bit as we move on, to be more myself. Comfortable in my own shoes. I'm not assertive towards co-workers, friends, or family. It's more like people walk over me, and I get pissed about it. 

To me when someone says they want something right away that means they want to get the task done, and back to you. It would be like someone saying to you, "Hey can you meet up with me at 10? I know it's late, short notice, but don't be late." You show up at the scheduled time, and they are no where in sight. I wasn't pissed, just annoyed.

It was a day later...I left another message saying in a kind, yet firm fashion, "I haven't heard back from you one way or another about my syllabi. You wanted them as soon as possible, and I got them to you. If I don't hear from you, I'm going to assume they are close to perfect, and will print copies of them later today. I have to get going on my classes. I'm taking time off in July, and need to move things along."

5 minutes later she called back. It's interesting how she called right back this time, when yesterday she didn't call back at all. Her, "I haven't had time to look at them yet. We have awhile until school starts. When did the (Previous Education Director) get them to you?" Me, "Before she left for the summer. I have 3 classes. Before I move along with handouts, lesson plans and such I need the syllabi approved." She said, "I'll try and get to them before the end of the day." 

So...the person I usually am not more than likely got the point across. 

If I have to be here all summer I'd like to get my classes ready to go. The funny thing I'm working on a poster for my boss that isn't due until August. What makes my syllabi any different then that?

Plus I just watched Fried Green Tomatoes not too long ago. I have that Katy Bates image in my mind. It takes courage to stand up for myself, but when it's said and done it feels good.

Are you an assertive person, or are you laid back?


Anonymous said...

I'm definitely not an assertive person, though lately I've been working on it. The anxiety is killing me, but I think it'll be worth it.. to live my life fuller. I applaud you on standing up for yourself!

Masshole Mommy said...

Oh, I totally AM that person. I always speak up.

~ Noelle said...

I am assertive, at times...
I hate when people expect things from you, but don't respect you enough to follow through...
I would have been so annoyed. Waiting a month was WELL past the time I would have allowed lol

The Cranky said...

I was a mouse for years... now I roar. TOWANDA!

Theresa Mahoney said...

I am usually not confrontational, but the older I get, the more outspoken I am. It took everything in my body not to snap on these 3 Ghetto Hood Rats (and I mean that with every fiber of my being) the other day. We were leaving our fitness center, and one of the hood rats thought it would be funny to walk really slowly down the STREET in front of my car so I had drive at snails pace for about 30 feet until she reached the sidewalk, all while her friends kept laughing and looking at me like "what ya gonna do about it?". I had to keep my composure since I had Mariah in the car, but I did make an example to her and told her that's why those kind of girls will always be living in the welfare complex and will go NOWHERE in life, while we will have the last laugh driving our awesome neighborhood, in our nice car and get to do nice things in life. Ironically, I also had that Kathy Bates image in my head when I was driving behind the girls. Not very nice thoughts, but it is what it is.

Eat To Live said...

I agree, when someone tells me they want something.. I figure they need it done so they can get their job done. I would be P I - - E D that she is taking so long. She doesn't sound like a good boss to me.... just someone who has lucked into her job.

Indah Nuria Savitri said...

I have to say I'm an assertive type, but I know my limits and try to make people comfortable with me as well. Sometimes, my line of works doesn't give me much time so I need to make sure things are done as scheduled. But it's always good to stand up for yourself..


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