Then a girl that I teach with got a call from her daughter's principle saying, "We're having problems with ____ kissing boy's in class." She did her best not to giggle. Then had a talk with her daughter (who is in kindergarten).
I told both ladies above about Mica's class in kindergarten having trouble with infringing on people's space. Mica's teacher says that this is very common with kindergarten, first and even second graders to want to give each other hugs and kisses. It's not just Mica that they are having problems with.
We as parents teach our kids to be affectionate. In their first years it's acceptable to kiss and hug the people they see. Most of them are relatives or close friends. We send them off into independent land; once they get comfortable with their fellow classmates some of them want to kiss, hug and boys often want to wrestle.
When I was in kindergarten I in no way thought about kissing a boy. I thought they had cooties.
What used to be acceptable in their minds is no longer acceptable. What once was cute, is no longer appropriate.
What are we doing about this:
- We've talked to Mica's teacher a few times. She's really glad we're on her side. I guess a lot of parents don't care now a days, which is really sad! She thinks they get a lot of this from TV. Mica has barely watched TV. I can blame it on Disney's Princess' and Prince's. They really glorify a kiss!
- We've talked to Mica many times about giving people space! At school they call this, "Bubble Space."
- We've talked about germs.
- We've talked about how it's ok to kiss and hug people like Mommy, Daddy, Grandma's and Grandpa's. It's however not ok to kiss or hug classmates.
- He's had to write apology letters.
- We've sent him to bed early. With Mica, naughty behavior clears up with sleep much of the time.
- Daddy emailed and asked Boys Town what to do? That may seem obsessive, but hey if they have the right answers then we need to hear them.
- I've talked about role playing with Mica. He seems to like to act. Why not try to act like I'm a fellow student of his?
- Daddy thought about making a contract with Mica. If he breaks it and infringes on someone's personal space at school, he looses something really important to him. We of course would explain all this to him.
What we don't want is Mica afraid to tell us when something goes wrong!