I do have to say I had a one up from babysitting a lot when I was younger. I was a regular babysitter. I enjoyed it to. I had a another one up for my oldest sister Angie having my niece when she was 18. My niece Kailey lived with my parents for a few years. That certainly help prepare me for Motherhood. She shared a room with my sister and I. There was a lot I knew, and some things I didn't.
- As a Mom I thought I'd have control over my child's clothing choices, and hairstyles. They are boys. Boys don't care about things like that. -Not true. My Mom always helped pick out my clothes, and she went through pictures with me as to what to do with my hair. I always have ideas on hairstyles I like for boys. I even have a pinned board on hairstyles for boys. Mica and Isaak don't like what I like.
It's fine. I'm glad they have opinions, likes and dislikes. It's great I'm raising independent thinkers. Dad has his opinion on these things to. My Dad growing up never cared about our clothes, or hair. As far as clothing goes I buy them what they are into. I usually get to pick it out though. I keep their tastes in my mind though.
- I used to think that kids are A) Brats or B) Great Kids. It's not as black and white as that. They go through stages. Our kids are good kids overall. They do well in school, eat good, sleep good, usually help when asked, but sometimes need reminders. There were different times where both kids went through a stage where they didn't want to leave Grandma and Grandpa's house. They'd refuse to get their coat and shoes on, and they'd cry the whole way home. 20 minutes of listening to a kid scream and cry, while driving can make anyone go insane.
They love Grandma and Grandpa's house because they are nice, don't give them very many tasks, feed them throughout the day, and give them lots of TV time. I'm glad that was just a 3 year old stage. During that time I thought I was going to pull my hair out. I thought I was messing up as a mom.
- Growing up my mom got mad at us for little things like our shoes being in the middle of the floor. Once she had Grand Kids she said, "Alissa you have to learn to choose your battles." She has done this more as she had grandchildren, and I have done this as a parent to.
- I learn along with my kids. Somethings that they do in school is different than what we used to do. They teach me, and I teach them.
- They're all different. I don't like the comment, "Boys are easier to raise than girls.", "Girls are easier to raise than boys.", or "The second one is easier because you'll know what you are doing." Each child is different, they all go through stages. We all have our happy moments, and our moments of struggle to.
What do you feel like you've learned while being a Mom or Dad?