Saturday, April 25, 2015

The Moment You Write Up a List, and the Bad Out Weighs the Good

On Monday Travis is handing over his two week notice at his job. I think since he's gotten his job we as a family have been more stressed out, since he got let go after working at the dental lab for 12 years.

When one writes up a list with more negatives then positives; it's time to do something about it.

My husband was hoping his job would be rewarding. He was hired as an art teacher for adults with special needs. There's a lot more to his title that he was never told about.
  1. He's had to work with one adult in particular that has to have his pockets checked for weapons every time he comes in the building. This adult has tried to hurt himself as well as goes up and hits others. He spit in my husband's face last week. My husband can't do anything about it.

  2. Another person is violent. She got mad that she was unable to sit on "her" seat in the van. She got out, and proceeded to beat my husband with her fists. He couldn't do anything other than block himself. 

  3. He can't go anywhere during his lunch break due to the fact that he has to stay with the adults he's responsible for. Therefore he never gets a break, while he's at work.

  4. He never knows when he'll get home. He has to chart, and drive a van at the end of the day, so timing at home gets difficult. 

  5. He had a pay cut from his last job, and the commute is further away.

  6. He has yet to be able to work with the adults on art projects because some are too low to function well enough to work on art, while others are physically able, but emotionally unable to function on art.

  7. We're having to pay into before and after care for our children - when before we didn't.

  8. He has to come home and research about his clients for the following day, and work on charting. 

  9. Other clients beat up on other clients, so the good clients end up leaving. :( 
He went to help with the clients art show last night. Travis is upset that the clients lack consistency. It's not like he doesn't care because he does. He's not a callous person.

He told them he is in fact leaving. The managers were upset. That's one more person they have to train.

We both think that this place should be hiring nurses and CNA's that understand what goes into the client's care. Let them know that art is part of the deal. Anyone can help someone slop paint on a canvas. Not everyone can be a caregiver.

So my husband was trying to give it a go. It just didn't work out.

His old boss called to tell him that the dental lab was sold to someone else. They are swamped. He is paying Travis double to come in to do some cases before the business sells. His old boss never had it out for Travis. His old boss just really made some bad business decisions. We'll see less of Dad for the next 2 weeks. He's working at the lab, and is finishing his job as an "Art" Instructor that never really was an Art Instructor.

After that we'll see what the future holds. One artist is looking for an assistant 20 hours a week, there's a non-profit that has art classes for kids during the summer, and he models. All those little things are opportunities.

Am I worried about the future? Yes that's a Mom's job to worry. I was worried about my husband's safety at his current job. I worried that he'd get majorly attacked. I worried that our kids would regress because he wasn't around as much. I worried that my husband would hate his life. I'm glad he's putting in writing that he's quitting. I only wish that he would have known what he was getting into prior to getting into it.


Indah Nuria Savitri said...

Alissa, I would do the same thing if it happens to me. Things are getting tough and it should not jeopardize your husband and your life further. I sincerely hope things will get better pretty soon

Masshole Mommy said...

It's too bad that they weren't more forthcoming before Travis took the job. I have a feeling they knew about all of this and probably have a high turnover & were hoping they would get some sucker who was willing to put up with it.

Eat To Live said...

My Granddaughter works with the special needs and one of them is violent also. I won't tell you what I think they should do about it. I might get arrested.

Ai Sakura said...

On the positive side, he is able to leave that job and move on to something else. I do really hope that things will look up even more for you guys. Understand how stressful it must be with all that's happening. Big hugs!

Ai @ Sakura Haruka

Theresa Mahoney said...

That's too bad the job didn't work out, but it does sound like leaving is the best option. No need to stress himself out on a daily basis when he could spend that time searching for a job he truly loves. Good Luck!

mail4rosey said...

I like that you're so supportive, Alissa. Wishing him the best. It's smart that he's moving on where he's not happy. It doesn't sound like being there is worth just a paycheck. Good for you guys for taking active steps to make the change.

Charlie said...

It's so hard making the decision to leave or stay especially when a job is needed, BUT, IMO safety is more important. If they are upset they will have to train another person, maybe they will learn to be upfront about what all the job entails. If not, then they just might experience the same thing happening again and again.

~ Noelle said...

I hate that he has to quit...
but at least it is when summer is starting, right? I know things will all work out, give it a bit of time ( yes, I know its easier to say than do)
I pray that things work out even better in the long run for you guys


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